I love warm sunshine. My favourite months are May and June in the UK. Funny how it's quite OK for himself to go and leave you all but how differently they view you going... 💜
isn't it... it's funny, I used to travel quite a bit with work, and I can't imagine doing that now. Somehow it was strangely easier when they were little as although there was a physical and logistical problem to solve, it didn't have the emotional complexity. He is supportive in theory!! What I've also noticed by putting it out there in (semi) jest are the tacit judgements that I've received - not necessarily on here, but from people who've read it saying to me 'but of course you wouldn't go', and 'well you'd have to wait ten years' etc, and things that would never be said to my husband. Thank you for 'seeing' me xx
I feel it too. I am planning to start house sitting so I can travel a bit. My husband isn't really interested. A weeks holiday once a year is all he wants. Then I feel guilty for wanting more when he will be here working and we have three adult sons living with us.
But since he works from home it's the only way to have a holiday really. I don't have the money (my own income) to just go on holiday and feel like it could be used as a legitimate excuse for me not to go even though he's generally very supportive. I totally see you and all mothers. It's not easy.
I do love the warmth, although there is something super magical about feeling it on your back and face whilst there is snow all around... I wouldn't turn down a weekend on a beach by the sea, but I am just so drawn to lakes and mountains, and there is something so ethereally gorgeous in the winter. Blue sky, sunny winter days create a magic for me x
One thing we have learnt from experience through relatives and life, and reading of your experiences, is if you have a dream and can do it you should go for it! I can see you in Antartica!!!
Loved reading all of this! Especially the fact you prepared him well for falling into the icy lake. Funny how you don't always see the benefits of all the things we choose to do until way down the line. You've also made me miss the cold more than I already did (it's been 45°C where I live for the last three days straight!) And now I'm right there with you dreaming of Antarctica. I hope you get to go sometime, even if it's just for a visit!
My magical weekend would include hiking in wild countryside with my other half, then a long bath and dinner and a glass of red wine in front of a roaring fire. xx
It's 6am where I am and your post was the first thing I read this morning. What a beautiful piece. I loved it. And the part about learning to put the relationship with Himself first in the hierarchy is very wise. The only long-term relationship I know of personally has lasted 55 years and that's what they have done.
Thank you Frances, I'm so glad you enjoyed it. Since we have started to put each other first, our relationship has transformed. We never know how things will unfold but its been quite a revelatory way of being.
I love warm sunshine. My favourite months are May and June in the UK. Funny how it's quite OK for himself to go and leave you all but how differently they view you going... 💜
isn't it... it's funny, I used to travel quite a bit with work, and I can't imagine doing that now. Somehow it was strangely easier when they were little as although there was a physical and logistical problem to solve, it didn't have the emotional complexity. He is supportive in theory!! What I've also noticed by putting it out there in (semi) jest are the tacit judgements that I've received - not necessarily on here, but from people who've read it saying to me 'but of course you wouldn't go', and 'well you'd have to wait ten years' etc, and things that would never be said to my husband. Thank you for 'seeing' me xx
I feel it too. I am planning to start house sitting so I can travel a bit. My husband isn't really interested. A weeks holiday once a year is all he wants. Then I feel guilty for wanting more when he will be here working and we have three adult sons living with us.
But since he works from home it's the only way to have a holiday really. I don't have the money (my own income) to just go on holiday and feel like it could be used as a legitimate excuse for me not to go even though he's generally very supportive. I totally see you and all mothers. It's not easy.
Love this Emma. My own magical weekend might include a little more WARMTH, but you've made the cold sound deliciously tempting 😊
I do love the warmth, although there is something super magical about feeling it on your back and face whilst there is snow all around... I wouldn't turn down a weekend on a beach by the sea, but I am just so drawn to lakes and mountains, and there is something so ethereally gorgeous in the winter. Blue sky, sunny winter days create a magic for me x
Yes, I know what you mean. Crisp blue winter days in the mountains and lakes of New Zealand's South Island are pretty special 😊 💙
One thing we have learnt from experience through relatives and life, and reading of your experiences, is if you have a dream and can do it you should go for it! I can see you in Antartica!!!
Loved reading all of this! Especially the fact you prepared him well for falling into the icy lake. Funny how you don't always see the benefits of all the things we choose to do until way down the line. You've also made me miss the cold more than I already did (it's been 45°C where I live for the last three days straight!) And now I'm right there with you dreaming of Antarctica. I hope you get to go sometime, even if it's just for a visit!
I just realised my reply to this never posted Cassie!! Where do you live now? Xx
Oh My God! Antartic - whgt next??!! Isnt it great though, to still have dreams you can one day fulfil?? Skydiving for me - soon!
A gorgeous piece, Emma!
My magical weekend would include hiking in wild countryside with my other half, then a long bath and dinner and a glass of red wine in front of a roaring fire. xx
Ooh lovely xx
It's 6am where I am and your post was the first thing I read this morning. What a beautiful piece. I loved it. And the part about learning to put the relationship with Himself first in the hierarchy is very wise. The only long-term relationship I know of personally has lasted 55 years and that's what they have done.
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Thank you Frances, I'm so glad you enjoyed it. Since we have started to put each other first, our relationship has transformed. We never know how things will unfold but its been quite a revelatory way of being.
So...do I apply for the job?? 🤣🥶
Ah, well...the Arctic is melting, yet perhaps waiting a bit before applying??? Time is on your side...
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